I put spaghetti sauce on my wife.Put indicates an intentional action. I think it's fair to assume that he wasn't trying to put spaghetti sauce on his wife. Instead, he probably meant:
I spilled spaghetti sauce on my wife.In which sentence spill indicates that there was some kind accident, and the spaghetti sauce ended up on his wife.
Some verbs indicate intentions. Others indicate accidents. Some are just descriptive.
Let's use English well!